Lessons From The Incident That Change Me Forever

Murakami is right on this saying:

One day you will experience an incident that changed you forever as a human being.

I guess I have experienced that moment myself. I used to think that everyone was kind, at least there’s kindness in someone’s heart even when society think otherwise. It is us who lack of understanding or simply don’t know their personality actually are.

I didn’t change my whole perspective about it though.

It’s just, at certain degrees I’m kinda shifted my pov into this:

Kindness isn’t absolute. It’s so relative depends on where and what kind of angle we look at. Yep, for me, kindness is like a view surrounded by people and its beauty depends on the positions of the observer. It might be good for us but means otherwise to others. And we can’t force it.

When you think you do something good, who knows that it could offends some people. Those people will spat angrily in instant. Don’t be surprised that even your close friend can hate you right away, [or you’ll be surprised that nobody trying to understand your motives]. Anger knows no bounds. It is because the kindness you’re committed to doesn’t fit someone else’s shoe. You aren’t wrong, neither do them.

Not everyone will accept your good intentions. Furthermore, they will hate you for unbenefited them. Especially those who close enough to have expectation on you.

The incident that change me forever got me these lessons:

      1)      Love people as much as you want. But don’t forget to put some distance. Proximity is a fertile ground for expectations. And expectation never ceased to hurt people.

 2)      Think carefully before making decisions that involve others.

      3)      Some people aren’t really wick toward us. Maybe they do bad out of knowledge. Forgive them for your peace.

       4)      Words have powerful impact on human memories. Watch your words.

      5)      Hurt is a matter of perspective. But still people gonna detach you if you are in a different term. So, get a grip, stand on your feet even when it’s mean to be all alone. Stay sane.

I’m most engaged with point 1, tho. Sometimes we damage our mental health by putting too much expectation on ourselves. It goes the same with putting expectation on someone else’s shoulder.

Okay, that’s all the things I wanna share about. Screw tenses.

Peace.